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My wife wanted to make sure that I was being up front about who and what I am which I tried to do with the truthful but sorta vague things I put on my profiles. Most of you who know me are already pretty well-educated on the subjects of sex, gender and sexual orientation, but for those of you who are hopelessly confused this blog is for you.
First off, sex, gender, and sexual orientation are three separate things. Let that sink in. Sex is what you are biologically, gender is a mental image of who you are, and sexual orientation defines which sex and/or gender you find preferable for dating and mating. With me so far? Groovy, now lets try to make your head explode. Most people have been taught to believe that sex is one of two things, you’ve been lied to. Same thing goes for gender and sexual orientation. These three things have many more than two variables involved. Gender and sex tend to operate on a sliding scale with the opposites on either end. Everyone falls somewhere on that scale and it’s actually quite rare to meet people who are completely male or female when it comes to gender and sex. Sexual orientation works mostly like gender and sex with a few extra variables thrown in to muddle the issue even further. If you’ve read this far you’re probably starting to get something of a clue or you’re wanting very badly to rant at me about aberrant behavior and choice, with a little religious self-righteousness thrown in for moral higher ground. Struck a nerve did I?
Take a look around you and really try to actually SEE. People like me are all around you and most of them are deathly afraid to admit even to themselves what they think and feel. They wind up trying to become things they aren’t and end up as a suicide or murder statistic. Be yourself and allow others to develop into what they ARE instead of what they think they should be.
First off, sex, gender, and sexual orientation are three separate things. Let that sink in. Sex is what you are biologically, gender is a mental image of who you are, and sexual orientation defines which sex and/or gender you find preferable for dating and mating. With me so far? Groovy, now lets try to make your head explode. Most people have been taught to believe that sex is one of two things, you’ve been lied to. Same thing goes for gender and sexual orientation. These three things have many more than two variables involved. Gender and sex tend to operate on a sliding scale with the opposites on either end. Everyone falls somewhere on that scale and it’s actually quite rare to meet people who are completely male or female when it comes to gender and sex. Sexual orientation works mostly like gender and sex with a few extra variables thrown in to muddle the issue even further. If you’ve read this far you’re probably starting to get something of a clue or you’re wanting very badly to rant at me about aberrant behavior and choice, with a little religious self-righteousness thrown in for moral higher ground. Struck a nerve did I?
Take a look around you and really try to actually SEE. People like me are all around you and most of them are deathly afraid to admit even to themselves what they think and feel. They wind up trying to become things they aren’t and end up as a suicide or murder statistic. Be yourself and allow others to develop into what they ARE instead of what they think they should be.
